The Long-Distance Blues

Planning a wedding is never an easy thing. Unless you have the wherewithal to hire a wedding planner, which I don't. But planning a wedding while your fiance is across the country? Whoa momma. The silver lining to my cloud is that at least I live in the same city as the event. I couldn't imagine trying to plan a wedding being long-distance myself!

Anyhow, since I'm local, and am more familiar with certain aspects of the wedding scene than he is, I've sort of taken on the role of finding suitable locations and photographers (the only things we're working on right now, since they're the biggies). I build a spreadsheet listing things that we'd like for them to have, mark which venue/photographers have which options and as much cost information as I have so far, and send it to him to look at. However, since I kind of went gung ho during the research phase, those are pretty long lists. Again, I say, I feel sorry for my fiance. Haha. So right now I'm trying to go through them and cull them down, being merciless. This photographer is just too expensive. Snip. That venue would require us to set up and take down tables/chairs and charges a lot for rental on top of it. Chop!

But I think the hardest thing I've experienced so far is that we have to have all of our conversations by phone, where you can miss a lot of nuances that you otherwise have when you talk in person. Just tonight we had a misunderstanding where he said one thing, I heard another, and then got all drama queen on him complete with tears.
Which surprises the heck out of me, to be honest - I never thought I'd be one of those hystrionic kinds of girls. EC (my fiance - because typing 'my fiance' every single time I refer to him is ridiculous) asked me suspiciously, "Have you been watching those wedding shows lately?" I can only assume he means "Bridezillas," haha.

At any rate, while he was frustrated and I was teary, we eventually sorted things out. I mean, there are still basic things that are still up in the air (eg budget), but I think we're making progress. And really, it's in my best interest to whittle down these lists to just a few possibilities, because I "get" to drive out to these venues and take pictures to send back to EC to look at. Hm, 6 venues to visit vs 22? No contest.